tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4760134077739485292.post3628841147487874878..comments2023-04-13T02:22:18.693-07:00Comments on Hope, Interrupted: OMFGsarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15316131078833658090noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4760134077739485292.post-68241135142531300362010-11-10T10:57:26.272-08:002010-11-10T10:57:26.272-08:00Oh my word, I would be livid, too. She obviously ...Oh my word, I would be livid, too. She obviously doesn't get it. At all. I think your response was very restrained and not at all inappropriate. Letting her off softly, yes. Goodness I would be so pissed!Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16614232173945249682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4760134077739485292.post-75644839861903997772010-11-10T08:03:28.723-08:002010-11-10T08:03:28.723-08:00holy fuck. I already have a strong general distast...holy fuck. I already have a strong general distaste for doulas in that they often act like there's something wrong with having trained physicians at the ready and this doesn't help my growing prejudices. tell her to get her patchouli ass away from you already.hungry for hungerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05198385928512425055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4760134077739485292.post-5609502328481023632010-11-10T00:11:26.272-08:002010-11-10T00:11:26.272-08:00You did so well to restrain yourself here. I'd...You did so well to restrain yourself here. I'd probably send an email and fill out the survey, even if she still doesn't "get it". One day, some of your words might get that through that thick head of hers.<br />xoHope's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984543289642681339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4760134077739485292.post-28158673449467048232010-11-10T00:10:50.673-08:002010-11-10T00:10:50.673-08:00Urgh :(
I had a doula with Freddie and she was wo...Urgh :(<br /><br />I had a doula with Freddie and she was wonderful and adorable and even though Freddie died, I would not choose to have her out of my life. It was her first 'pro' birth and she helped so much and when it went wrong, she did everything. Had it not been for the fact that she was pregnant (and then had a boy), we'd be regular friends now.<br /><br />I did fill in her Merryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06338478486624362745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4760134077739485292.post-29861915486947774772010-11-09T22:04:46.264-08:002010-11-09T22:04:46.264-08:00Women, thank you (!!!) for sharing my rage and hel...Women, thank you (!!!) for sharing my rage and helping me to realize that I have every right to be as angry as I am. I forwarded her response to Janelle (my BFF for those who don't know) and she was just as outraged at her reply as I was (as was my husband, who she cc-ed).<br /><br />I have crafted lots of responses to her in my head over the last several hours, and may or may not end up sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15316131078833658090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4760134077739485292.post-73150781051752447242010-11-09T21:31:35.517-08:002010-11-09T21:31:35.517-08:00I am outraged. Absolutely livid. That woman is cl...I am outraged. Absolutely livid. That woman is clueless, insensitive and in the wrong profession. I want to shake her and scream in her face.... HOW DARE YOU!!!!!! How dare she treat you so callously? Bloody form letter!!<br /><br />Outraged!katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12657300459504022413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4760134077739485292.post-77410685602513060262010-11-09T21:18:36.806-08:002010-11-09T21:18:36.806-08:00w-o-w. I made the mistake of opening a card from o...w-o-w. I made the mistake of opening a card from our doctor awhile back, needless to say any mail will be returned to sender. Do they really not know? I should have introduced myself. I'm Missy and I'm going to stalk your blog if that's okay.Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17215595176820577303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4760134077739485292.post-10218731391298317912010-11-09T19:39:09.278-08:002010-11-09T19:39:09.278-08:00hilarious @cullensblessings--I was thinking the sa...hilarious @cullensblessings--I was thinking the same thing when I read your comment. In fact I toned my comment (way) down, because I was thinking "well, I don't know the other BLMs that well, and I wouldn't want to offend..." <br /><br />Glad to be pissed off for Sarah, with you. Sarah it reminded me of when you offered to drive down to my mother's house and "pay her aæhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14449465426164797433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4760134077739485292.post-67964770169517771992010-11-09T19:04:22.961-08:002010-11-09T19:04:22.961-08:00Ash you and I are birds of a feather.....Ash you and I are birds of a feather.....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4760134077739485292.post-68870621969310972712010-11-09T18:01:20.275-08:002010-11-09T18:01:20.275-08:00oh, wow, Sarah, insensitive doesn't cover it. ...oh, wow, Sarah, insensitive doesn't cover it. What a douche. And, really, to respond in a way that is defensive is beyond reasonable.<br /><br />I'd likely ignore her because it doesn't seem as though she has the capacity for serious self-reflection.<br /><br />Oh, sarahlu, I am so sad that you have to deal with this sort of thing. Just another unfairness, my friend.<br /><br />zubeldiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09540610591568098744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4760134077739485292.post-45295577118277681492010-11-09T16:23:01.388-08:002010-11-09T16:23:01.388-08:00OMFG doesn't really even begin to sum this up....OMFG doesn't really even begin to sum this up. Your response was very kind given the situation. And for her to continue to be defensive just shows a total lack of understanding of the situation. <br /><br />I'd probably just ignore her - sadly I've learnt that either people seem to get it or they don't. And if they don't you can't explain it to them. And the people Maddiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15665878580598197034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4760134077739485292.post-61478403472547020012010-11-09T16:21:35.468-08:002010-11-09T16:21:35.468-08:00Sarah,
I am so sorry. You would think she would ...Sarah,<br /><br />I am so sorry. You would think she would have a better way of handling this than she does. I would actually use this opportunity to fill out her stupid survey and be honest with what you think of the way she handled the situation.<br /><br />Of course, I don't have to deal with her and so it is easy for me to say that you shouldn't let this go. It is pathetic how she briannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03703767053224975771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4760134077739485292.post-7275826680571270022010-11-09T15:54:28.317-08:002010-11-09T15:54:28.317-08:00Thanks, Angela.
She responded with a pretty def...Thanks, Angela. <br /><br />She responded with a pretty defensive email, which has also made me angry. I am torn up enough as it is, I don't feel like I should have to take care of her through this. I don't think she's had a loss before, I'm pretty certain we were her first. But to make me feel bad for not wanting contact or because I was offended to be included in her "sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15316131078833658090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4760134077739485292.post-22731498115651235212010-11-09T15:47:12.957-08:002010-11-09T15:47:12.957-08:00The way your doula is handling this situation is e...The way your doula is handling this situation is entirely wrong and misguided. Maybe she has never had a loss before? I think you have every right to be upset and offended. I don't know if I would've been able to keep myself to two sentences.Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14426410846093760653noreply@blogger.com